How To Turn Anger Into Laughter To Stay In Peace With Others
Posted: Sunday, May 15, 2011
by Hilda Cang
One Saturday morning - 930am
I was sitting in my regular salon for a hairdo. The plumb, rosy-cheeked lady boss was starting to trim my slightly curly but somehow, still manageable hair which I believe she must be familiar with a lot more than I do. She is my hairdresser !
As usual, once the ice was broken, our topic was just about anything. We have built up this rapport since the day our daughter introduced this unisex salon to us two years ago, so even my husband, Nick also comes here for a haircut every three weeks or four depending how fast his hair grows.
If I were the boss, I would have gone as far as questioning the clumsy assistant for a reason. However, my hairdresser didn't. She instantly laughed out loud with her mouth wide open = aha - ha - ha - ha - ha ...... as if she was seeing something funny happening. No anger nor accusation.
I was uneasy. I said, " How come you are laughing and not scolding her ? "
" No. I don't scold them . " eyeing at her five or six shampoo girls or helpers.
" Such thing is ordinary incident to me. If you want them to work happily for you, you have to accept the way they are. You mustn't simply accuse them of a simple mistake out of carelessness. Unless otherwise the fault is a serious one. " Answered the happy-go-lucky lady boss.
I am convinced she must have her discontent with her girls over the years for breaking a mirror here, spoiling a hair dryer there etc but she chooses to ignore it, doesn't want to create an explosion of anger in her network. Such is a wise attitude while running your own business. I can see her business is brisk anytime I walk in. Hmmmm !
Getting mad at someone is only hurting yourself. Forgiving and accepting others will reward you with peace of mind.
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Top-level comments on this article: (6 total)A good way of looking at an unpleasant situation.How true you are, David. I like your biting comment this time !
Hi Hilda. Thanks for sharing this insightful story. She has a great point! Blessings! TeresaTeresa, I think it's good if we can follow her pattern. A laugh is worth a thousand ( ... )
Blessings !
Great article Hilda. I agree completely with the owner of the salon. Who doesn't make mistakes? It's good if we can laugh along with someone rather than criticize.You are right Brianna. I learnt it from her the way to handle a situation like that. Patience is also one thing.
Blessings to you !
Thanks a lot Hilda for writing this article. I really enjoyed reading it and will try to follow the same rules.Hi Andy, thanks for reading and commenting. I can guarantee you that it works (laughing out loud) when in a situation like that. Your worker will stay on for you !
I like her tolerance and philosophy of not dumping her anger on her employees, Hilda, and also of appreciating that we all make mistakes. We all know when we've made a mistake, we don't need to have our faces rubbed in it.Very right Jennifer. I did learn a thing or two from her every time I go there.
Thanks for reading and blessings to you !
I really like your article! Good insight from an ordinary day.Your kind comment is appreciated.
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