Hilda Cang

Away From Home Sweet Home - Something Lost Something Missed



Posted: Friday, September 09, 2011

by Hilda Cang

There is a time when our children would pack up and go to another city, state or country for the sake of pursuing their dreams, leaving behind their parents with some mixed feelings, feelings of concern, of helplessness or even guilt.

Our second daughter has only been away less than a month to Singapore to work as well as for a change of life as she bade farewell to us barely last month. This morning, however, I discovered that she shows signs of homesickness from our FB conversation because she has missed my cookings. Once your children miss your cookings away from home means they are homesick, simply homesick.

I tell you when I was in San Francisco for a month years ago, I deeply missed Malaysia for all her delicious foods at a delicious price, its all-year-round convenience plus its favourable weather. I just couldn't stand the cold, misty weather as early as 2pm sometimes in SF. I longed to get back to where I came from, into the warm space and my home. It doesn't mean I dislike SF. I love it there as anyone would and I had seen much of it in and around but I just missed Malaysia and its very own foods.

So, this morning when my 23 years old girl said she would be back for a week next week and listed a menu for me, I promised to cook a feast when she gets back (lol))  Well, there's restaurant. No big deal !

When she was at home, she used to skip meals like nothing because everything was within reach.

When something is lost only then something is missed. We never treasure or appreciate what is in our hand until we lost it. This is a lesson everyone almost has gone through including me.
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Top-level comments on this article: (8 total)
» left by Jack H. Schick 253 days 10 hours ago.
99 fans.
We all get homesick and nostalgic. Part of life and growing up, I guess.

What should we do with this Story Teller group of ours and the new SearchWarp stuff?
» left by Hilda Cang 253 days 6 hours ago.
60 fans.
You are so right, Jack. This is life.

About this Story Teller group of ours, may be we need to keep on telling stories since that's what we love doing.

I think SW is in the process of diversifying. Chime in, Jack.
» left by Ella Camp 253 days 8 hours ago.
90 fans.
Heartwarming story Hilda- It's true we can easily stay in touch with those who are far away , more easily today than ever before, but what we miss in this communication is the Human touch.....something humans always need. Thanks- Always- Ella
» left by Hilda Cang 253 days 6 hours ago.
60 fans.
Ella, thanks for your great comment. Yes, human touch is what is lacking these days. These days, the form of communication is so mechanical without real touch.......
» left by Marijo Phelps 252 days 15 hours ago.
143 fans.
It is a good thing to have good memories to get homesick and nostelgic about, eh?
» left by Hilda Cang 252 days 4 hours ago.
60 fans.
Right. Everything goes with a feedback. Life is, after all, an experience.

Thanks for stopping by, Marijo.
» left by The Old Gray Mare 252 days 14 hours ago.
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It's so true. We never really miss something until we don't have it. Besides, in your case, your child dearly misses you. Sure she loves the food, and sure she's homesick. But it's that whole warm, loving feeling from home and beloved family that is drawing her back. Nice knowledgeable article. Enjoy your feast and the loving feelings that you'll experience with it.
» left by Hilda Cang 252 days 4 hours ago.
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Thank you, Gray Mare. Reading your comment warms my heart to the bottom. Who don't leave home these days?

About the feast, I am looking forward to showing off my kitchen skill and hope that every dish is edible. haha.
» left by The Old Gray Mare 251 days 14 hours ago.
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No worries about the feast. I'm sure you know how good your cooking skills are. Anyway, no doubts anyway - just show 'em off
» left by Christofer French 252 days 10 hours ago.
74 fans.
Amen. I agree with your observations. Your family sounds delightful. And of course, my mouth waters when you talk about the Malyasian/Singapore world of delightful food. Loved your article.

Yours, CUF
» left by Hilda Cang 252 days 3 hours ago.
60 fans.
Asian food may be considered one of the multiple fascinations besides other cultures etc.

I believe you will enjoy some of the cuisines ....

» left by Brianna Popsickle 252 days 8 hours ago.
121 fans.
You are so right Hilda, what a great lesson in life. How wonderful your daughter misses you and your cooking! I know you'll have a wonderful visit, how nice for you both.
» left by Hilda Cang 252 days 3 hours ago.
60 fans.
Wonderful of you to comfort me here. I feel better and really looking forward to seeing her again. You know, mother and daughter thing this.

Thanks for reading, Brianna.
» left by Hilda Cang 252 days 3 hours ago.
60 fans.
Fran, a saying goes like this ( to mothers ) If she is happy, I am happy. As long you gals stay in touch then things should be okay.

Thanks for your kind comment always.
» left by Bob Alexander 249 days 15 hours ago.
48 fans.
Hilda, I lost my daughter to Texas. But since the place is is about to be burned to crisp, I think homesickness is setting in and she thinks that Alabama is a better place now than when she left. Good writing.
» left by Hilda Cang 249 days 15 hours ago.
60 fans.
Bob, we all learn from our mistakes and only come to our senses after much has been done as a lesson. I am glad your daughter has realized it. We must take it as a life breakthrough our children do the things they do.

Thanks for reading. Hope you are well.
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